Closing the Generation Gap

Generations in the workplace are a hot topic, and for the most part, you don’t have to convince people that generations really do matter. In a survey released by the Pew Research Center a few years ago, “79% of Americans say there are major differences in the point of view of younger and older adults.”

Essentially, we recognize there is a generational gap, and that this generational divide can cause real problems at work. Now that we recognize it, we must learn to manage the generational gap at work. If we don’t, the great divide could seem as large as the Grand Canyon.

So how can we learn to work together effectively and constructively so we can achieve team goals? Below are some tips to help you close the generational gap in your workplace.

Tip #1: Let Go
There is an old saying that says, “labels are for jars, not for people,” and that certainly is true for generational labels. Your coworkers do not fit nice and neatly into one of these generational labels. A whole host of other things impact who a person is and why they behave the way they behave including: parenting, relationship with technology, education, economics, personality traits, etc.

Does that mean we forgo trying to understand the generations? Absolutely not! Jason Dorsey, the Gen Y Guy, says generational labels are “powerful clues to where to start to connect with and influence people of different ages.”

Along that same line, I think it’s important to check our own personal view of how we think about other generations. Do you feel that your generation is the best generation and that the rest just need to grow up or shut up? Be willing to check the assumptions, preconceived notions and biases you have about other generations and then let them go. In the end, be willing to get to know the person for who they are, not just what their generation says about them or what you think about their generation.

Tip #2: Seek to Understand
Have you ever heard yourself utter the phrase, “I don’t understand kids these days, why do they think it’s okay to…….” If so, you are not alone. Part of the generational divide is that we don’t take enough time to truly understand the other generations’ mindset. The truth of the matter is that growing up in different eras causes people to see things differently.

If you want to cross the generational divide, you have to be willing to take some time to ask folks from other generations what events, trends, and people impacted their first 15-20 years. That will help you begin to understand how they see the world. Then as bestselling business author Eric Chester says, “Once you have understanding, you can get cooperation and connection.”

Tip #3: Get out of Your Generation
Ask yourself, “How can I get out of my generational mindset and connect with a person from a different generation?” We cannot create a one-size-fits-all working relationship, but instead must tailor our interactions and communications to best meet the needs of each other. You can get started by asking your coworkers some simple questions:

  • What can I do to best communicate with you?
  • How and when do you want to receive feedback?
  • What does work life balance/integration mean and look like to you?
  • What is the best type of reward and/or recognition that you can receive?

And then, be willing to share what you need from your coworkers to be the best team player possible.

Generations in the workplace are here to stay, and with two more on the horizon, it’s important to learn how to maximize the strengths of each generation. These three tips will help you cross the generational divide and close the gap that may be holding your team and/or organization back from being the best it can be.

End Notes: http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2009/08/12/forty-years-after-woodstockbra-gentler-generation-gap/

About the blogger
As an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) Trainer with The Village Business Institute, Dawn Kaiser lives her passion to energize, encourage, and equip individuals to live stronger. She is a motivational speaker, writer, blogger, teacher, leader and positive-thinker extraordinaire. Dawn draws on more than twelve years of experience in the Human Resource/Organizational Development field and has a Bachelor’s of Business Administration and a Master of Education. She is also a certified HR Professional.

Dawn specializes in communication, leadership, high performance teams, and personal development. Dawn also enjoys unleashing hope in her community and around the world through her speaking, writing, and volunteer opportunities.

For more information about The Village Business Institute, go to www.TheVBI.org or call 1-800-627-8220.

 

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Choose Marty’s Path

Last weekend I attended the district conference for Rotary clubs that stretch from Thunder Bay, Canada westward 1700 miles to Dickinson, N.D., the largest district in the world of Rotary International. The keynote speaker Saturday evening was V.J. Smith, a university professor from Brookings, S.D., who authored the book, The Richest Man in Town. Smith self-published his book until it came across Mac Anderson’s desk at Simple Truths, LLC. Now the world has the opportunity to read about Aaron “Marty” Martinson, and how one person has the power to positively impact the world.

Marty didn’t have power in the sense of position, title, education, income or any of those things we often believe necessary to be influential or rich. Marty impacted and changed the world from the checkout counter at his local Wal-Mart store. You need to read the book… I can’t do it or Marty justice here, but his story got me to thinking…

When we look around at the increasing and senseless violence and chaos in the world, it’s easy to fall into a descending spiral of despair and hopelessness. All of us are subject to it, of course, but if you are one of those people who measures who you are by the life-giving influence you have with other people—rather than basing your self-identity on size of your paycheck, the cars you drive, the house you live in, or the titles you hold—then you are not as likely to get stuck in the death spiral of negative thinking.

Comedian Ken Davis remembers the advice his mother gave him whenever terrible events were portrayed on the TV news. “Look for the helpers,” his mother would tell him. Look for the people who run towards the danger to help people in need, not the ones who run away. It is the helper who reminds us of who we are. The helper is the one who shows us what it means to be human in the very best sense of the word.  These are the true heroes. They are worthy of the accolades we heap on those whose acts of bravery set them apart from the rest of us. Why?

Because we recognize there is something different about them.

At least in that moment and for that time, there is something different about them; something we admire and want to emulate. Unfortunately, we tend to reserve the title “hero” for those who step into harm’s way and onto the six o’clock news. In reality acts of heroism happen all around us every day, and we don’t see them for what they are.

For instance, it takes real courage for a supervisor to have a non-judgmental, constructive confrontation conversation with an employee whose work performance is falling short of expectations—a conversation that turns that person around while simultaneously having a positive impact on the entire work team. It takes real courage to do what’s right when no one is looking, even when it costs you to do so. It takes a hero who, though their plate is full, reaches out to a struggling coworker to help them through a tough time in their life.

“But what does this have to do with this ‘Marty’ guy, or even me,” you ask?

Good question, so I’ll answer it with a few questions of my own.

What if you and I decided today that our universe will consist only of the person we are with at the time? What if we determined that we will be present and in the moment with each person we meet? What if we make it a point to connect with people one-at-a-time in a way that says to them, “You are important to me. You have value. You are all that matters at this moment”? What would happen if we slowed down long enough to realize that the world doesn’t revolve around us after all, and that our lives really aren’t meant to be all about us, but rather about reaching out and touching the lives of other people in positive, meaningful ways? What if we each determined to be that person we always looked up to, not because of the things they had, but because of who they were and what they did for other people? What if you and I simply choose today to be the kind of person the family dog already believes us to be? What if?

Look… you don’t have to take it from me. Read Marty’s story for yourself. He was a true hero. He impacted the world one person at a time and enriched the people around him.  The beauty of the story is that you and I can choose the same path. It’s only a decision away.

 

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Four Tips for Planning a Meaningful Retirement

By Denise Hellekson, The Village Business Institute

A commercial on television the other day caught my attention. It was from AARP, and it showed different people who looked to be in their early 60’s in different aspects of daily life. When the camera focused on them they would say things like, “When I grow up, I want to own a bookstore,” or “When I grow up, I want to join a jazz band.” The commercial was about retirement, and it reminded me of how our view of this stage of our lives is changing.

Not so long ago, retirement was seen as an event marking the withdrawal from active involvement in the world of work; a time of endless days of leisure and idle busyness. The new view of retirement sees it as a process, not an event; a time of exploration, life enrichment, creative change, and personal growth. Many people who “retire” find a new career path, and rejoin the workforce in a different capacity. The new view of retirement has been called a time of renewal, and there are a couple of reasons for this change in perspective;

  • With increased health and longevity, people are living longer and remaining active well into their senior years.
  • Baby boomers, as with all developmental stages they have passed through, have not been willing to fade gracefully into the sunset. They have redefined retirement as a more active, meaningful time of life.

Although the attitude about retirement is changing, the focus for preparing for this stage of life still focuses primarily on financial considerations. Very little is offered on how to plan emotionally or socially for this major life transition. In fact, it has been said that most people spend more time planning a two- week vacation than they do their retirement; which could last for the next 30 or 40 years.

Whether you plan to retire in six years or six months, you can start preparing and planning now for this next phase of your life. Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Take Stock of Your Retirement Situation. At what age do you plan to retire? Will you be helping to care for aging parents? Helping to raise grandchildren? Are there any special health concerns you will need to consider? Do you plan to work part-time? Do you have social interests and friends outside of work, or has your main focus been your career? What are your dreams and interests? What gives you a sense of purpose and meaning?

2. Gather information on what to expect. Talk to friends and family members who have retired and ask them what they found to be the hardest part? What one piece of advice would they give? If they had to do it again, what would they do differently and why? What do they enjoy most about retirement?

Check out resources such as “What Color is Your Parachute for Retirement,” by Richard Boles and John E. Nelson, or “Your Retirement Quest,” by Alan Spector and Keith Lawrence. Books like this can be very helpful in explaining the stages of retirement, and providing self-assessments and helpful tips on how to create a retirement that is meaningful and unique to you.

3. Communicate with Those Closest to You. Share your plans for retirement with family and friends. If you are in a relationship, make sure you and your partner communicate openly and honestly about your dreams and your concerns regarding retirement. Do you both have the same expectations? How much time do you plan to spend together? Do you plan to retire at the same time? (Research indicates it can be helpful to retire at separate times, in order to help each person adjust individually)

4. Practice Retirement Now. This is especially helpful for people who have made their career their main priority. Pick one retirement dream and start cultivating it in your life now. It can help you develop interests, relationships, and an identity outside of work; set healthy limits and find balance; and make work more productive and fulfilling.

One last thing to keep in mind; although financial security is indeed a factor in creating a satisfying retirement, there has been a great deal of research that indicates that the size of one’s nest egg is not what drives happiness. As Alan Spector says, “The greatest issue is not running out of money, but of running out of meaning.”

Begin planning today to create a retirement that is fulfilling, meaningful, and uniquely your own!

About the blogger
Denise Hellekson provides EAP counseling, training, consulting, and crisis response services for The Village Business Institute. She has a master’s degree in Community and Rehabilitation Counseling from St. Cloud State University; and is a Licensed Independent Social Worker and a Qualified Neutral under Rule 114 of the Minnesota General Rules of Practice (Mediator). Hellekson has many years of experience in counseling, advocacy, and consulting services.

 

 

 

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Be Vulnerable in Order to be Great

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper or more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.” Those words resonated with me this past Sunday as I watched Oprah Winfrey interview author Brene Brown, author of “Daring Greatly.” I have been inspired and encouraged by many of the Super Soul Sunday episodes, but this one was different. It struck a chord deep inside of me and really made me reflect on how I am living.

In the past I would have identified vulnerability as a weakness. It was the Achilles heel you didn’t want to reveal. However, I have noticed over the past few a paradigm shift is taking place. Influential and inspiring leaders are starting to talk about vulnerability as a path to greatness—one that takes real strength and courage.

Think about two coworkers who are unable to get along. Most of the time, the source of the conflict goes back to a situation where one person’s actions led to another person feeling disrespected or hurt. Instead of being vulnerable and open about how they feel, they choose to respond in defensively and aggressively, which sets the cycle of chaos in motion. If one of them is courageous enough to let his/her guard down and express the hurt, the other may respond to the vulnerability with openness—which likely will lead to a dissolving of the tension and conflict.

Vulnerability is not only about expressing our feelings. It is also about taking chances or risks. I admire people who are willing to put their work and ideas out into the world with no assurance of acceptance or appreciation. I am inspired by those who dare to dream big and don’t let the thought of failure hold them back. Those are intense forms of vulnerability. They are people who I consider to be living the title of Brown’s book, “Daring Greatly.” It is interesting that the title for Brown’s book comes from a speech Theodore Roosevelt gave in 1910. I will quote the whole section since it is so lovely:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly….”

Daring greatly is about having the courage to be vulnerable. It is not about waiting to do something once you have no fear, but moving forward and striving for greatness in the midst of your fear.

This year I am going to challenge myself to take it to the next level and be vulnerable in order to be great. I am not really sure what that looks like or where it will lead, but I am willing to go for it. I am willing to be courageous and walk the path of vulnerability and openness. It won’t be as much fun, though, without you joining me. So let’s do it together. Let’s have a year of daring greatly and living wholeheartedly!

About the Blogger
As an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) Trainer with The Village Business Institute, Dawn Kaiser lives her passion to energize, encourage, and equip individuals to live whole heartedly. She is a motivational speaker, writer, blogger, teacher, leader, and positive-thinker extraordinaire. Dawn draws on more than twelve years of experience in the Human Resource/Organizational Development field and has a Bachelor’s of Business Administration and a Master of Education. She is also a certified HR Professional. Dawn specializes in communication, leadership, positivity, high performance teams, and personal development. Dawn also enjoys unleashing hope in her community and around the world through her speaking, writing, and volunteer opportunities.

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Rumors, Assumptions, and What-ifs

I’m sitting at the gate waiting to board my plane for Chicago—except there is no plane to board. I have joined a throng of humanity all scheduled to depart from the same gate on three different flights. I’m a late-comer to the gang in that I’ve been here for only an hour while some have clearly been here long enough to get past their frustrations and are well on the way to Boredom. You know – that place where your mind is numbed by the lack of stimulating interaction.

You’d think you could find some solace on the electronic flight departure log conveniently located in the gate area—some bit of useful information. Apparently somebody somewhere is busy doing other things more exciting and more important than updating flight status information. Hey, I get it. Chicago is digging out of a snow storm and they had to re-fit the jets with snow plows in order to move down the taxiways. And as it turns out, all three incoming flights originate from The Windy City. At best, we’re looking at a two to three hour delay. You’d never know it from the departure log or even by visiting the airline’s Website, however. The information isn’t there so we are left guessing.

So what’s my point? Communication, communication, communication.

As noted lecturer and management consultant James A. Autry once said, “No one ever did a worse job for having too much information.” As of right now, we’re a half hour past departure time for my flight and finally–finally–a brave gate agent just made the announcement that our jet is broken in Chicago and they haven’t yet found a replacement. So much for using jets to plow taxiways, right? Still, you have to wonder why it took so took so long for that information to make its way to us, the folks who paid good money for this entertainment.

When people don’t have enough information, a number of interesting things happen. First, people begin to earn advanced degrees in M-S-U; they begin to “Make Stuff Up.” Hence, the birth of the rumor mill. Second, they get frustrated because they don’t know what is going on, which leads to irritation and eventually anger.

Does your workplace have an active rumor mill? Are people frustrated, irritated, or angry because they feel left in the dark? If so, it may be because they lack the necessary information they believe they need to do their job. Not always, of course, but at least sometimes. After all, some people just love to start the ball rolling to see how far it goes. So how do you stop the ball?

  1. Challenge the “facts.” It is amazing how many times we humans decry our opinions as though they are fact. “If I believe it, it must be true!” So ask the person to recount for you the factual background of the information they are sharing. If the story begins to fall apart, work to trace it back to the source and deal with it there.
  2. Ask the person to stop spreading their unfounded or fact-bare story with other people, and encourage them challenge others as well.
  3. Don’t allow yourself to get sucked into the rumor mill—seems like this should go without saying, but it’s worth mentioning. We’re all human and we are all subject to the same temptations. Just sayin’…
  4. “Prevention is the best medicine.” That age-old axiom fits well right here. If you are a supervisor or a manager, tell your direct reports and team members everything you can about the work to be done and anything that might affect it. Certainly there are some things that wisdom dictates you withhold, like those of a personal or proprietary nature, or things that must be shared only in certain forums. But too many people withhold information as a means of displaying power or establishing dominance. At the end of the day withholding information really is counter-productive and actually reduces your power and influence rather than expands it.

At the airport, time goes on and the clock keeps ticking. So far, two of those delayed jets have arrived, to the delight of two thirds of the people waiting here at the gate. The electronic board says my flight is now scheduled for a 9 p.m. departure. It seems they must have fixed the broken jet, or they wouldn’t post a departure time, right?

Hmmm. As cell phones start ringing and emails popping all around me, we learn our flight has been cancelled after all, and the airline is resorting to notifying us electronically. Maybe the gate agent sensed danger and decided not to come back. Of course, we don’t know because there are so many gaps in this communication process.

One by one, we all rise and trundle back to the ticket counter to stand in line for another two hours as the agents sort out flight itineraries, issue hotel vouchers, suffer the abuse of tired and frustrated would-be travelers, and so forth. As for me, my purpose for travel has now evaporated. I’ll sleep in my own bed tonight and reschedule this trip for a future date when there is no threat of winter storm delays. I hope. Somehow these things always have a way of working themselves out, but it would be nice to know what’s going on in the meantime. Maybe you and your team feel the same way.

Happy trails and safe travels to you.

About the blogger
John E. Trombley, organization development consultant and training with The Village Business Insitute has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Alaska, Anchorage, and a Master of Management degree from the University of Mary, Fargo. Prior to founding his own organization development company, John served as a Command Pilot, Squadron Commander, and senior staff officer in the USAF and Air National Guard—he retired as a Lieutenant Colonel with over 6,200 flying hours.

With over 14 years of experience in providing consulting services and training programs, Trombley has a passion for group process facilitation and corporate training in areas including leadership development, change management, leadership transition processes, managerial coaching, and personality assessment workshops. He is registered with the Supreme Court of the State of Minnesota as a Qualified Neutral mediator, is trained in Critical Incident Stress Management Group Crisis Intervention, and is certified in Internal Investigations by the Council on Education in Management.

For more information, contact The Village Business Institute at 1-800-627-8220 or www.thevbi.com.

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Benefits Brokers Posing as Consultants

Is your benefits consultant really a benefits broker? Would you know the difference, and should you care? I work with brokers and consultants as both a vendor and as an employer, and most have been upstanding and dedicated professionals. So I am cautious about the rant I am about to go on, as I would hate to see a broad brush applied to all benefits consultants and benefit brokers. Keeping that in mind, I do have concerns about brokers who try to pass themselves off as consultants.

First, let’s back up for a few moments and differentiate between brokers and consultants. Benefit brokers are representatives of particular benefit products—they are marketing the products and services they wish to sell. There is nothing wrong with this—it is the nature of commerce. A consultant, using Peter Block’s definition from Flawless Consulting: “is a person in a position to have some influence over an individual, a group, or an organization, but who has no direct power to make changes or implement programs.” By expanding this definition to benefits consultant, we get, “a person who neither provides nor manages benefit products or services, rather they are a source of objective advice on the products and services that will best meet management’s needs.”

Now here is the rant. Everything would be great if brokers and consultants stuck to the above definitions. The reality though is that a few players in the benefits market have been doing some serious blurring of the lines between what a consultant advises and what a broker provides. One such way the blurring takes place is when a benefits broker [vendor] presents their sales people as consultants. A second is when a benefits broker establishes within their organization a separate entity of business to provide benefits consulting. The third is when an independent benefits consultant only recommends products and services for which they earn a commission.

Let’s take each of the three and look at them more closely to see if they really are obstructions of vision, or maybe just reasonable business practices. In the first example, it is not unreasonable to ask what is so bad about a broker calling himself a consultant—particularly if the broker is truly transparent about any connections to specific products and services they get paid for selling. Part of a broker’s job is to advise clients on the products and services that will best meet an employer’s needs. Where the problem arises is when brokers hide or don’t declare their financial connections to products and services they sell, and then try to pass themselves off as objective consultants. Are they being transparent, are they being honest? Not really, and most of us would not feel too good about the advice we get from someone like this. Fortunately, I have not run into a lot of brokers passing themselves off as consultants, though they are out there.

The second example is somewhat more common, particularly among larger brokerages. If the brokerage’s consulting department is truly independent and has provided objective advice including recommendations to use products and services not vended by their brokerage division, this would seem to be a consulting service you can trust. Unfortunately what we see more often from these consulting departments is the rubberstamping of the products and services offered by their parent company. When we hire consultants, we expect them to be objective, so just rubberstamping their own products would seem to raise some questions about their integrity. How would you feel about trusting the well-being of your employees to a consulting department that only recommends products their parent company sells?

In the third example, our experience with independent benefits consultants is that most truly are a resource employers can trust to make objective decisions about health benefits. In other words, they work for the employer, not a benefits broker or vendor, and typically work on straight consulting fees. If they do have a financial connection, commission, with a particular vendor, they let their consulting clients know and most consultants make sure any commissions are clearly identified in any requests for proposals. Independent consultants who hide these financial relationships are inviting employers to doubt their objectivity, professionalism, and trustworthiness. Even with that said, some independent consultants have sweetheart deals with certain vendors. Before you hire a consultant, make sure you ask if they have any financial connections with vendors.

As I said in the beginning of this post, most of the brokers and consultants I have encountered have operated with integrity and full disclosure. If you are looking for someone to help you select the best health benefits for your organization and employees, do your research and ask the right questions so you find “one of the good ones.”

If you have questions about how you can provide health and wellness services for your employees, give us a call at The Village Business Institute 1-800-627-8220 or visit our website www.TheVBI.com.

About the blogger
Darrin Tonsfeldt has a background of program administration, employee supervision, and clinical experience, as well as 20 years of experience in organization consulting and planning. He provides oversight of The Village Business Institute, Regional Counseling Services and Financial Resource Center programs along with consulting services that include: strategic planning; career, leadership, management, and executive coaching; corporate training and group facilitation; crisis response in the workplace; and organizational consulting.

 

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Lead by Personal Accountability

By Denise Hellekson, The Village Business Institute

We all hear a lot about the importance of accountability in our organizations. Accountability is a form of trustworthiness; being responsible for one’s decisions and behaviors.

Employees from all positions can be frustrated when there is a lack of accountability in the workplace. Unfortunately, while most people are concerned about accountability, it is usually perceived as someone else’s problem. Have you ever heard comments such as “I don’t know why we identified the action items, no one ever follows through.” “People around here are just so negative, no one helps anyone out anymore.” “Why do I always have to remind people to do their job?” “They need to improve.” “They aren’t accountable.” The focus is on fixing the behaviors of others.

Effects of low accountability can have an enormous impact on a company as a whole, and on supervisors in particular. As a supervisor, you are generally responsible for the day-to-day performance of a group. Your job is to guide the group toward its goals, see that all members are productive, and resolve problems as they arise. Therefore, accountability is critical to your job.

So what can a supervisor do to instill accountability in employees? While it is true that other people’s actions aren’t in your control, and many events aren’t either, your response to these situations is in your control, and sends a message about who you are, and what you expect from others. Therefore instead of focusing on what you cannot control, (making others be accountable), focus on what you can control (You; your attitude, thoughts, actions, and choices) to influence appropriate workplace behaviors.

In other words; in order to instill a sense of accountability in others, supervisors must lead by example—be personally accountable.

Supervisors who lead by personal accountability keep these questions in mind:

Are your words and your actions in alignment?
Once you become responsible for a group of people and their performance, what you say and do has more impact because people pay more attention to it. People look to you to set the example and provide direction. Be mindful of the messages you are sending by your actions as well as your words. What you do says volumes more about what’s important to you and to your organization than all the words, speeches, and mottos plastered on company walls. Make your expectations clear, and then live by them.

Remember, the small things do indeed matter. The small choices and decisions you make 100 times a day add up to determining your workplace environment. What type of environment do you want to work in; Respectful? Happy? Productive? How do your actions promote and encourage the desired outcomes?

How do you spend your time?
What you spend your time on tells people what you value. For example, while you say that quality is important, the amount of time you spend on quality issues is the truest test of your commitment to quality. What are the goals and standards for your department? How much time do you spend attending to them? Invest your time in what you say you value…walk the talk.

What questions do you ask? Pay attention to the questions you ask, they also send messages about your focus and what you value. Do your questions promote a solution-focused, or blame-focused environment? In his book “The Question Behind The Question,” John G. Miller explains how negative, inappropriate questions, (such as “Who dropped the ball?” or “When is that department going to do its job?”) represent and encourage a lack of personal accountability. When we ask better questions, (such as “How can I communicate better?” “What can I do to understand the employee’s frustrations?” “How can I adapt to a changing environment?”) you can solve problems, and eliminate blame and procrastination.

What do you recognize and reward?
Rewards are tangible messages to people about what to pay attention to. If you say you value innovation and risk-taking, for example, you must be willing to reward those who are innovative. Be attentive to how people are made to feel when they take risks. Are people rewarded or punished when they fail? Your actions in such situations greatly determine whether or not future innovation and risk-taking will occur.

Also keep in mind supervisors can at times unknowingly reward employees for performing badly, or inappropriate behavior. Again, performance that is rewarded will increase in nature. This rule applies whether or not the behavior is desirable. This means if you are repeatedly rewarding your employee’s complaining behavior with attention, complaining behavior will increase in frequency.

Leading by personal accountability takes courage. It’s about setting the right example and making a difference in people’s lives. However, when you choose to lead by personal accountability, you empower yourself to be the best you can be, and in so doing, positively influence and empower others.

About the blogger
Denise Hellekson provides EAP counseling, training, consulting, and crisis response services for The Village Business Institute. She has a master’s degree in Community and Rehabilitation Counseling from St. Cloud State University; and is a Licensed Independent Social Worker and a Qualified Neutral under Rule 114 of the Minnesota General Rules of Practice (Mediator). Hellekson has many years of experience in counseling, advocacy, and consulting services.

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Think Big

On January 21, we paused to pay tribute to the fallen civil rights leader, Martin Luther King Jr., and whenever I hear his name, I cannot help but hear his words “I have a dream” ringing in my head. Martin Luther King Jr. was a big thinker. He was not afraid of what others called “impossible” and he was willing to share his long-term dreams with the whole world.

Unfortunately, I believe thinking big has gone to the wayside and small thoughts and short-term thinking have become the norm. It doesn’t have to stay that way. Bestselling author Michael Port has created a “Think Big Revolution,” where he states that “big thinking must happen now; today, tomorrow and forevermore.”

So with the New Year upon us, I am making a call to action for thinking big. I will admit big thinking isn’t easy, but if you commit to the process, the results can be extraordinary and dreams can come true. Here are some tips I have discovered along the way as I began to think big.

  1. Learn Continually: In order to think big we must be willing to learn from every experience, including both our successes and failures.
  2. Make Time: Devote time to exclusively focus on thinking big. Put creative thinking time in your schedule.
  3. Ask BIG Questions: Be willing to challenge the status quo and focus on asking questions that will help you to think about things in a different way. Example: How can I think more creatively about this?
  4. Look for Possibilities: Don’t focus on the problems, instead look for positive possibilities.
  5. Focus on Future Regrets: There is the saying that “we regret not the things we do, but the things we didn’t.” So ask yourself, if I didn’t try or attempt this would I wonder “what if?” ten years from now?
  6. Create a Dream Board: I like using Pinterest to create dream boards for my goals and then pinning images to my virtual dream boards.
  7. Connect with Others: To become a bigger thinker, connect with other extraordinary people, who will inspire you and challenge you to step outside your comfort zone.
  8. Start Small: The old saying goes that “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” We must think big but focus on starting small, so begin today by taking a small step forward. For example, you could go join the “Think Big Revolution” at http://www.thinkbigrevolution.com/

Thinking Big can be scary, but it can also be fun. Having fun and laughing at and with yourself while you think big will go a long way toward helping you become comfortable as you stretch your mind and change the world around you.

Author Bio
As an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) Trainer with The Village Business Institute, Dawn Kaiser lives her passion–to energize, encourage and equip others to live their strongest lives. She draws on more than 12 years of experience in the Human Resource/Organizational Development field, a Bachelors of Business Administration from the University of MN Duluth and a Masters of Education from the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign. She is also a certified HR Professional. For more information about The Village Business Institute, go to www.theVBI.com.

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Have a Safe Landing

It seems that the faster I go, the behinder I get. I know that’s not a “real” word, but it works for me. It just seems that with every passing day, there is less of a margin left over with which to truly relax and rejuvenate myself. The work keeps coming. Clients have needs to be met, coworkers go on vacation and their work has to be spread among those available, and the busy-ness of business continues to cry out for attention. Constantly. And trouble never takes a vacation, right?

What’s a person to do?

I am reminded of something I learned back in my Air Force pilot training days when a flight instructor once talked about handling the stress of the moment when you first become aware of a serious in-flight malfunction. The natural tendency is to jump right into the emergency procedures. It has been about 35 years since those days, but what I remember is this: he instructed us to literally wind our watches (that was before the digital age), scan the situation in front of us, and then once we had a clear understanding of the bigger picture, then take the appropriate, coordinated action to address the conflict and resolve the emergency. Clearly the idea was to calm down, regain perspective, and then respond to the emergency rather than react to it.

Increase your margin by keeping things in perspective and then calmly deal with what is in front of you. Get up from your desk. Walk around the building for a few minutes. Take some deep, cleansing breaths. Hit the water cooler for a quick “cold one.” Find something to be thankful for every day and tell someone about it. Don’t get trapped in the minutia and lose your perspective and the joy of the journey.

In the end, I think you’ll have a safe landing.

Keep the pointy-end forward and the rubber-side down and have a safe and productive new year.

 

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The End of the World

Is it the end of the world—12/21/12, fiscal cliffs, and Christian Ponder who can’t throw a pass from the pocket. Most us of don’t think the world will end on 12/21, though going over a fiscal cliff may happen, and for heaven’s sake, who knows what would happen if Ponder ever threw a completed pass for more than 30 yards. It could be earth shattering. My concerns aside—what’s on your mind? And if you’re an employer or supervisor, what do you think your employees are worrying about this time of year?

Our employees are facing plenty of very real uncertainties and some of them are more than just a little scary. Health Care Reform [is it good or bad?], budget short falls, unknown impacts of increasing and changing regulations on employers and more, all coming at a time of year with expectations of peace, joy, and human kindness. It is not surprising to find employees feeling more “bah humbug” than “Merry Christmas” or “Happy Hanukkah.”

Most of us will work our way through the season and into the New Year dealing with our own personal ups and downs, anxiety and joy. It is a common human experience to have mixed emotions and there have and will always be uncertainties in life we need to cope with. I wonder though about those who lose the resolve to cope… would you recognize when someone you know truly feels like it is the end of the world?

Suicide is a reality at this time of year, and as employers and co-workers, being aware of the possibility of suicide in the workplace can be lifesaving. It can help us to know when to reach out and truly care about others. The American Association of Suicidology has an easy-to-remember mnemonic devise to help remember the warning signs of suicide, “IS PATH WARM.”

I Ideation
S Substance Abuse

P Purposelessness
A Anxiety
T Trapped
H Hopelessness

W Withdrawal
A Anger
R Recklessness
M Mood Changes

One or two of these signs by themselves do not necessarily mean someone is suicidal though they may be sad, anxious or even depressed and in need of some help. The more signs someone exhibits the greater concern we should have for their well-being. To get more information on these warning signs and signs of acute risk go to www.suicidology.org.

When you recognize these signs it is very important not to ignore them and assist the person in getting help or finding someone who can help them. The Village Business Institute’s Employee Assistance Programs provide employers a resource to help their employees and their family members with anxiety, depression, and drug abuse—which are often issues people struggle with before choosing to take their life. If you do not have an EAP with The Village, help is also available through The Village’s Counseling programs—call 1-800-627-8220 for more information or to make an appointment.

In situations where someone is threatening to kill themselves or harm others, do not hesitates to call 911 immediately.

If you have questions about how your business or organization can provide health and wellness services for your employees, call us at 1-800-627-8220 or visit our website at www.TheVBI.com.

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